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Sufficient frequently to me on e-mail it comes to [spam] in the form of different letters with the proposal of various services. For example, very recently alien immediately several communications with the content, like, “you want to read the strangers of sms?”. Certain company proposes to acquire the special computer program, with the aid of which it is possible to draw off sms from any phone number, remaining in this case anonymous.
Reason 1. “knowledge – force” – means, it is armed”
To know all details of the life of its second half is simply necessary for many people. It is unimportant, from what region: personal life, work, contact with the parents or it is simple correspondence with the friends. Sometimes we consider that there is no personal life without our participation and be it cannot. It means, and in reading of communications there is nothing terrible, and this is not completely secret.
In reality: it is completely possible that you will obtain considerably more than questions, than answers. Indeed sms of communication – this as the pulled out from the conversation phrases. By them it cannot be judged behavior and actions of man.
Reason 2. distrust, the jealousy
Specifically, jealousy and distrust – one of the main reasons, why we want “to get in” into the strange telephone and to give communications. This as the disease: need for the life, the need to expose for by something of its of that loved. Especially, if your second half was already noticed in the inaccuracy, excessive flirtation or by special contact with someone besides you, i.e., in the actions, which can provoke this pathologic jealousy.
In reality: jealousy in the moderate quantities is, of course, useful. It can revive relation, introduce in them novelty and some raisin. But, I will be repeated, only in the moderate quantities. If in the relations there is no confidence, and jealousy oversteps the limits, hardly from this union will come out something good and long-term. But family life generally will become hell.
Reason 3. it is simple so, from the curiosity
Certainly, this is not reason in order to climb up into “personal” life of your second half, but nevertheless, many representatives of the fair sex are justified precisely by this. Indeed it is always interesting that your dear person makes into your absence, with whom it is encountered, as time is spent, it is copied with whom.
In reality: certainly, no one died from the curiosity. But nevertheless your excessive curiosity can seriously spoil your relations. Far from each man will forgive reading his sms of communications, even on such, it is at first glance, to inoffensive reason.
Reason 4. for the suspicion
Here everything is simple: if you request your young person to give to read a little his communications to you, and he begins to be dissuaded, to indicate that his this “personal”, to hide telephone and to place on this service the codes so that you could not reveal, becomes doubly more interesting – it means, it hides something. You they begin to torment thoughts, that in it is another woman, the mistress.
In reality: possibly, your suspicions will prove to be truth, while it is possible, and no. Here the probability: 50 to 50.
Reason 5. telephone on eyes fell
It is sufficient, the foolish, but sometimes “working” reason. You sit house, loved it plays into the computer or it washes in the soul. To study something, to you is boring. Its cell phone always lies before the eyes – you cannot hold in control…
Opinions of ordinary people:
1. By reading sms- Ci the attention is not sufficient
“Into the telephone climb usually very jealous and not experiencing confidence in their partners… And that you not made with your telephone, they will nevertheless find the method of anything “to dig”. This, you do know, disease… Simply here is need for the life, the need for by anything to expose that loved (loved)… Well, into psychology go I will not be, but to think necessary… It is faster even not above the fact, who “digs”, but above the fact, on whom “they dig”… That zh you similar made, that to you so they do not entrust… And think HOW to add to your to those loved of confidence in itself? It can more pay attention or more often speak, as you love them. In the pair it is more visible, which to whom is must…”
2. Less you know – more strongly you sleep
“SMS, e-mail and other forms of correspondence are personal information. But reading them, you only invade the personal life of this person, that not very well. Yes both problems and doubts after this appear. So that less you know – more strongly you sleep”.
It occurs, this question is extremely popular not only among the women, but also among the men. Several interrogations, which it is not difficult to find in the Internet, are devoted to it. Here one of them:
Did read you sometimes sms in the strange telephone?
• It did not read (a) – 167 people (20,22%)
• It read (a), but I make form, that I do not know – 428 people (51,82%)
• Read (a), then [taaakoy] scandal was! – 145 people (17,55%)
• It read (a), into revenge it wrote (a) been (by it) – 15 people (1,82%)
• But to me entire equal- to 50 people (6,05%)
• But suddenly it (a) [zametaet] well tracks? – 21 people (2,54%)
Opinion of the professional:
Reading sms – sign of disrespect and distrust
Svetlana [Kostina]-[Erykalova] (psychologist- consultant):
“There are many everyday arguments “after” and “against” in this question. Let us look to the situation from a psychological point of view. Reading the personal correspondence of man – this:
• serious intrusion into its personal, intimate zone
• the manifestation of disrespect to the personality
• one of the forms of violence above the psyche of the man
• the index of the absence of confidence in the relations
Violence in all its forms generates violence and destruction – explicit or hidden. It is necessary whether for you this in your relations? What price you are ready to pay for the doubtful information, and that she will give to you? Are ready you for the fact that with you they will enter so? Before accomplishing act, consider its consequences”.
Personally I consider that into strange telephone without consent and permission of the owner of the afore-mentioned in no case “cannot be climbed up”. In each person must be some personal life, space, air… Moreover it is possible that in no way it will be pleased to you, that he writes its best friend or associate from the work. So why in vain to be nervous and to be disturbed?