It is marry for the foreigner
Why woman does make the decision to marry foreigner? Most frequently to this serious step in their life the representatives of the fair sex are solved not only because of the desire to find comfortable and well-off life abroad, but also because of the existing psychological problems. The large part of those desiring to find to themselves foreign husband compose those, who already had time to visit marriage and has the negative experience of relations with compatriots.
Beginning
In our country the boom “of brides along the catalog” began after the disintegration of the USSR, when much of the fact that was categorically forbidden earlier, became accessible. The majorities of women ran then from the crisis economic situation, the unemployed way of life and the absence of prospects to find worthy husband on the native land. Was shown the same “scarcity” of man population, which existed on the native spaces from the times of the Second World War. The purpose to attain the best life even if remained in the course of time, then somewhat was transformed.
I want love, want wealth…
Besides the search for the arranged and well-off life, our compatriots increasingly more frequently speak, that completely they were dissuaded in the men of their country. According to the data of specialists, here serious role plays not only the fact of its own failures in the personal life, but also the negative experience of the destroyed family attitudes of mother and father. Very frequently, observing the crisis of the attitudes of parents or the complete disintegration of their family, woman subconsiously begins to transfer its negative relation practically to all surrounding men, to charge them with the incapacity to become “hope and support”. In proportion to the appearance of its own sad experience, in the head of woman are added the specific lath, the level, to which the man must correspond and to which, unfortunately, our compatriots do not always suffice. However, it is not worth forgetting, that being seemed such real happiness with the future foreign husband also can be sufficiently spectral. Indeed after the beautiful photos from the catalog of fiances so it is heavy to examine the present essence of man, his positive and negative qualities.
Opinion
Anat, 25 years: “Already 15 years I live in Israel. Dear Russian girls, I entreat you – do not lay on the marriage with the foreigner too many false hopes. Think logically above the situation: why to normal, real foreign man to search for brides precisely in the CIS, if his country not a bit not more badly [kishit] by local beauties. Among them are those most [russkogovoryashchie], only more adapted. I on itself know, WHAT Israelis search for to themselves THE RUSSIAN wives: these either drinks or unemployed, either rough and beating up or invalids, either freaks or everyone nothing, but as the wife they expect to find free housewife and sex- slave, who knows her place only in the kitchen and in the cot. Girls, do not entrust itself first to that falling. If man was decided to the searches for wife from other country – it means, all normal women of his country rejected for some reasons, whose discovery can you disappoint”.
“The production costs”
The major problem of marriage after foreigner and reason of the frequent disappointments of the brides, who leave for the boundary, is [skoropalitelnost] of the solutions. You will agree that it is heavy to compose accurate idea about the man, with whom to the marriage you are seen a total of several times. Fairly often lingual barrier does not allow normal contact and it does not make it possible not to the fact that learn the soul of fiance, but also to learn about his elementary habits, predilections or about the things unacceptable for it.
Opinion
upps: “Well, if the brains are sufficient only to first in order to advance your photograph in you [inete] as goods, then something be surprised. Well what reasonable woman will marry man another culture, and never will take a trip to it to the native land, it will not be introduced to the parents and the friends? Fiance actually can be registered in the crazy house. So perhaps he will describe? Was especially to me pleased phrase “if man it searches for to itself wife Russian, it means with it something not then”! … In its native medium!”
Happy exceptions
Certainly, it cannot be considered that all marriages with the foreigners are doomed to failure. And are ten, hundreds of pairs, which are confirmation of this. These are those lucky men, who found their present love. A strong feeling helped them to overcome the major problems of marriage with the foreigner: the difference of cultures, mentality, languages, religions; the frequent absence of work in the specialty; the limitedness of contact; nostalgia. Much depends not only on a good relation of the newly-made husband to the Russian wife, his respect, equal positions in the family, but also on the nature of woman herself. In the new medium as it is nowhere necessary to know how to be adapted, to be adapted to the new conditions finally to know how to stand for itself. The language proficiency of the new country, the tendency to become more independent variable and to find new specialty or to confirm previous – all this to a considerable degree helps to perceive itself not only with the necessary to new husband, but also meant as personality. The scarcity of contact in the native language can be completed by encounters with the former compatriots, but for permission of the existing problems with the foreign husband not to be shamed to be turned for help to the specialists – psychologist, the jurist, the doctor and so forth
Opinion
Oks: “Are completely contented by life those that after the Americans and the Englishman. Husbands are everything as for the selection calm and benevolent. Which after the Swede, is also as a whole contented, by husband in any case, but by it is boring in Sweden, but, as I understand, to go does not want to cheer itself into Russia, it prefers tedious Swede. 
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Timoxa: “I am also married after the foreigner, but it is very contented, although he is not Englishman and not American. It – Turk, but I is very contented. It calm, thoughtful, that loves! Not tedious, with it quietly, good, it is gay and so forth A generally, girl, everything depends on man and it is not here important, foreigner it or not!”
It is marry for the foreigner it is possible to leave for the different reasons. But so that family life would succeed, it is not importantly simple to fall “outside the first counter”, and to be penetrated for the man if not by love, then at least by sympathy. The marriage, to which the woman is solved only for the economic reasons, frequently leads to the crash of relations, the undisposed dreams and the strong disappointment.
