Paris in the Valentine’s Day. What could be more romantic? Only on February 14 in Paris at the Hotel Shangri-La! The hotel is located a few steps from the main sights – the Eiffel Tower, Champs Elysées and the Orsay Museum De.

A couple can choose from 81 rooms and suites available to the hotel. Among them – Suite La Suite Chaillot, with a balcony overlooking the Eiffel Tower.

The room will be waiting for Valentine’s bouquet of flowers and champagne. Also, prepare for them a fruit basket and chocolate.

Offer price starts from 645 euros per night, including breakfast at the restaurant La Bauhinia.

Spend the holiday of lovers can be in a romantic, quiet and peaceful Geneva , for example, deals in Le Richemond. Away from the hustle and bustle where you can enjoy a bottle of champagne on arrival and Deutz, as well as spa treatments, “Magic moment for Two”, which include 60 minutes of massage each, private baths and, of course, champagne. All the fun will cost from 742 euros per day.

Design hotel in Rovinj (Croatia) Hotel Lone pleasant days are also prepared with romance: two days in an apartment hotel, where upon his arrival in the room will be waiting for a gift bottle of champagne. Also special offer includes a visit to the Spa Wellness & Spa Lone with the two procedures to choose from – moisturizing facial or massage, dinner at the restaurant “L”, breakfast room and, most importantly, late check-out. Offer price 395 euros, is valid from 14 to 19 February 2012.

Lovers can go to Milan : shopping and romantic night in Milan, so to speak, combine business with pleasure … pleasure. Hotel Principe di Savoia offer is valid on December 31, 2012, so your holiday can be arranged any day. Breakfast in the room, a gym Club 10 Fitness & Beauty Center, as well as moisturizing facial, massage and a 10% discount on additional spa treatments at Club 10. To maintain the festive atmosphere will provide guests with a limo that will take them to the city center and back. Late check-out at 16.00 finish “pleasantness” of rest. Cost – € 400.

Hotel Savoy Hotel in Florence offers not only enjoy the luxury suites, champagne in the room and breakfast in bed, but a two-hour stroll through the city center with a professional photographer. Then get a couple of moments etched disc with this romantic trip. Price – from 427 euros per person per night.

With the royal glamor can spend this holiday in Vienna , for example, in one of the most luxurious hotels in the Austrian capital – Palais Coburg. Special SUITE FOR MY SWEET includes two nights at the hotel, champagne and breakfast in the room, a surprise for Valentine’s dinner by candlelight, and a five course meal with wine at the famous Vienna for the whole restaurant. A walk through the city center in a horse-drawn carriage completes a fabulous evening. In the tale of two would cost 2130 euros (2 nights).

For those who do not want or can not go to Europe, Moscow and St. Petersburg , too, found something interesting. The hotel Ritz-Carlton Moscow is waiting for guests bohemian party in the style of 20-ies. “G2 Lounge” on the 12th floor will turn into a decadent oasis of European bohemia. So the romance provided! The room will be waiting for a bottle of sparkling wine, a gift from the confectioner and a bed strewn with rose petals. Offer comes at a price of 600 euros.

Attractive offers to February 14 can also boast Barvikha Hotel & Spa and the Ararat Park Hyatt.

In St. Petersburg “Astoria” reigns “True Romance”, which includes apartments with champagne, chocolates and flowers, dinner at a restaurant, “Davidov” and massage with a full complement of pleasures – candles, rose petals and a dessert. Price – 840 euros per night.

W Hotel in St. Petersburg is also prepared for Valentine’s program spetstsene 425 euros, which includes champagne and chocolates on arrival, dinner for two at the restaurant miX in St. Petersburg, the procedure in the Bliss Spa, Wonderful room with lots of romantic surprises and late check-out.

Girls, remember that breast size – it is a personal matter of taste for every man, also should not forget how important is the shape of the breast. In order for the breast was in perfect shape and not sag, you should observe the rules of care for her.

There are several misconceptions about what can increase breast size by some actions. Food that we eat have no effect on breast size. Sports exercises can not increase breast size, since there are no muscles in the chest, so by exercising the muscles of the chest, you will not achieve the desired effect.

Massage, compression, or no woman wears a bra – all this makes no change on this breast size.
The size of the female breast is most influenced by genes. The volume completely ceases to be formed after pregnancy. On the size of the breast can affect a dramatic increase or decrease in body weight, with most changes shape of the breast. During pregnancy, breast feeding, and may increase several times, but after the lactation period, she returned to her previous form.

If you take the pill, some women noticed breast enlargement, a side effect of estrogen contained in birth control pills.

The only proven way to increase the breast – this surgery, plastic surgery, but this method is extremely dangerous for women and may affect your ability to breastfeed. Plastic surgery can be done already parous women.

How to deal with sagging breasts and why it comes so quickly and unexpectedly? In fact, due to the fact that there are no muscles in the chest, but only the ligament, which, under the influence of time lose their elasticity, and is sagging breasts. This process applies to all women with breast medium and large sizes. Unfortunately, this slow process is virtually impossible, because it primarily affects genetics, and then to the image of a woman’s life and her attitude to the sport.

There are contradictory opinions regarding the wearing of a bra. The belief that when it does not wear breast sag, as some believe, erroneously, as if the breasts in a bra is not moving, it only contributes to atrophy of ligaments, because they do not work. Unfortunately, experiments on this subject was carried out very little, but they confirm this theory.

Of course, an elastic solid chest – it’s beautiful. However, not safe, because it is denser, therefore, contains a large number of ligaments and connective tissue, and this increases the risk of cancer. After all, women with early menopause less risk of cancer than those who climax comes later, as the firm breast tissue disappears and remains soft.

Sagging breasts – is a natural process and inevitable process for the female body, which comes with age. Girls, remember that beauty – this is not always great. Treat yourself with care and love. And you’ll always look good!

Do not overheat

Not supercool , nor overheated pregnant women can not ! Gets too hot , not only you but your future child , which may affect its development is not the best way. So do everything possible to prevent this from happening . It is advisable not to be outside in the daytime , go for a walk in the late afternoon , or try to be in the shade. If possible ispolzute home air conditioner to cool the air , fans , fans. But – very neat ! In this heat , trying to cool himself all the time , you can easily catch a cold ! Any cold or infection affects adversely , so be careful to avoid sudden changes in temperature , and do not overdo it with ice and food from the refrigerator . In the hottest time of the day is better to get some sleep , it helps to sleep through the grueling heat . To prevent overheating , always take a shower or swim . Water should be cool but not ice ! Inflammation of the lungs or sore throat during pregnancy, you absolutely do not need . Swimming in general is very useful for pregnant women : the water cools , relaxes , soothes and relieves stress from the spine and stimulates the muscles . To lower body temperature, you can omit the feet in a basin with cool water, it will improve blood circulation and help prevent overheating and heat stroke .

In very hot weather your body is under stress , to reduce it – try to rest more , do not use makeup , do not make long journeys and driving, and even as a passenger, a long time to sit in one position . Wear loose clothing that hugs the body not to breeze could blow you .

Observe safe mode

During pregnancy , especially in hot weather , the body must necessarily receive adequate amounts of fluids , and better if it will not soda or juices , and carbonated water or tea , and cranberry juice. All drinks must be at room temperature or slightly colder . The water should be drunk necessarily , albeit a little bit , but drinking (or at least rinse your mouth !) : lack of water in the body leads to a decrease in blood volume , which in turn affects the increase in blood concentrations of oxytocin – the hormone that causes uterine contractions, and this may contribute to preterm birth. At the last stage of pregnancy when the growing probability of edema , limit fluid intake – 1.5 liters of water a day . Also in summer it is desirable for the maximum excluded from the diet, salt and sugar.

There fruit

In hot weather, pregnant want to drink more , but the situation requires restraint. The kidneys and liver are working with the future mother of two in the literal sense of the word. It is therefore very important to eat right and do not abuse the drink. Swelling may occur due to excess fluid that accumulates in the tissues of the body . Many pregnant women think that it was quite normal state in their situation , and if the swelling with rest , is not too concerned . But the pathological swelling disclose a violation of the kidneys and heart. They usually appear after sleep and do not disappear even after the holidays . So to understand the reason for swelling , it is essential . The water will help replace the fruit. They are always helpful , especially in the summer from their home gardens , but if this is not available , buy local fresh fruit market. They are particularly useful because they are not treated for long-term storage. Fruit and vegetables contain antioxidants, which neutralize the products of metabolism and decomposition of substances , whose formation is enhanced at high ambient temperatures.

Do not abuse the tan

Almost every woman loves to sunbathe , and pregnancy in this case is not an obstacle , but we must do it carefully and competently . Sunburn can be very useful in small doses ! Sunbaths give a feeling of warmth and pleasant, have a good strengthening effect : increase metabolism , improve endocrine glands , increase the amount of hemoglobin. Under the influence of the sun from the blood cholesterol begin to synthesize vitamin D, which is especially important during pregnancy for the prevention of rickets in the fetus , as well as for the prevention of osteoporosis in the future mom .

The sun’s rays have a pronounced antidepressant effect , but also stimulate pigmentation , therefore, a tan . The only important thing , especially during pregnancy , it is reasonable to use the useful properties of sunburn and neutralize harmful, respecting the simple safety rules .

“Utility ” and ” harmful ” tan may depend on your phototype . By the ability to tan people of the white race is divided into four phototype , which are programmed at the genetic level.

I phototypes. People with light eyes, white skin , red hair , and even minimal exposure to the sun makes them a sunburn , but sunburn is not formed .

II phototypes. These people also differ white skin , light eyes and hair , tan with difficulty and easily get sunburn .

III phototypes. To him more often include people with dark eyes and hair , with dark skin. They quickly tan, sun exposure causes them to minor burns, which quickly turns into a tan.

IV phototypes. Swarthy dark-eyed and dark-haired people, sunbathing without sunburn .

The smaller ” room ” of your type , the more you should beware of the sun. Although the specific constraints precisely because of the pregnancy for sunbathing there , in the period of increased activity of the sun’s rays can trigger the development of various adverse events in the body of the future mother. Long exposure to sunlight may contribute to the development of uterine bleeding due to lower blood pressure and muscle tone. Be careful!

Based on the foregoing , expectant mothers need to remember several recommendations .

• Sunbathing pregnant preferably before 10 am and after 5 pm during the inactive sun .

• During the day , in the heat , better stay in the shade. If the ambient temperature is too high , and the atmospheric humidity is considerable, well-being of women may deteriorate up to heat stroke.

• Do not sleep on the beach , because complete lack of control increases the risk of overheating and the possibility to get a sunburn . Remember that the clouds do not protect against UV rays, they are reflected from water , sand and get on your body!

• If exposure to the sun to use hats, sunglasses and cosmetics , has protective UVB- and UVA- filters .

To be beautiful ” chocolate “during pregnancy – this is great ! But in the woman’s body there are various hormonal changes . In particular, activates specific hormone that affects the pigmentation, ie, the formation of melanin, the result may appear pigmented spots . Their number and size, usually directly dependent on the residence time in the sun.

The most susceptible are the open space : the face, neck , ears, and décolleté . This condition is called chloasma ( melazmoy , the mask of pregnancy ). Pigmentation develops slowly , with no signs of inflammation, may be light and dark, after childbirth fades within a few months.

So, love , great , ethereal, inexplicable and inspiring – lasts for a year, not three, not ten, as naively believed dilettantes . Its time … 20-30 seconds .

There are four stages of romantic relationships.

First – the stage of love.

This condition , when our ego , sense of self- importance, it dissolves . For example , I walk down the street and see a beautiful stranger , its beauty captivates me, and I like to disappear into it without a trace . Everything I do , there is only he, and we with him – one. This state of total integrity , when there are no expectations. For me at this moment it does not matter , one of the stranger or his wife or girlfriend. I fully dissolved in it and not remember anything about himself.

Here it is , Love with a capital letter !

Ruthless psychologists argue that this condition usually lasts from several seconds to several days . And occasionally it may be delayed for years , but – with the full inaccessibility of the object of love. For example , such may be the love of any movie star. It is such a thing as love to the beautiful Lady Knights in the era of the troubadours, because the object of passion was mostly unavailable. Healers of souls have asked us to immediately leave these books illusion and not wait for this love from their partners .

The second stage – the stage of ownership .

The essence of this state – ” to have . At this stage two people go immediately after they met , because as soon as there was contact , immediately arise mutual expectations , what is sometimes known as the words ” faith “and “hope ” . The formula of these expectations -conditions is quite simple : “If you will meet my expectations, I will love you again . ” Since we are talking about property relations , the first and most important expectation – people will belong only to me. Psychologists offer a return for a moment in the school years and imagine the class. We enter and sit down at a certain desk , we obtain a black pen and large letters, displaying his initials on it , telling everyone: “Now it’s my party ! ” And only mine! ”

Compare this state with a state of love, as described above . Among them – a tremendous difference .

Love is in the second stage is possible if the object is fully consistent with expectations, it is almost impossible , and therefore at this stage are common frustration and jealousy. And, of course , insults . (By the way , what is ” wrong “? Psychologists say that is a condition where a person does not express openly their dissatisfaction , believing that the object itself must all understand .)

How long stage property ? From a few seconds to tens of years . By the way, for this stage is characterized by another statement : ” I’m without you can not ! ” Indeed, the bad without desks with personal initials …

The third stage – stage of manipulation .

At this stage steam passes when one partner is aware of the mission , the sphere in which they both are. Mission – this sense that, for what they ” met ” . The family is raising a child in the social sphere – mutual aid and support , implementation needs to communicate. So , one partner is aware of the mission , while the second can not. In this case, the first begins to forcibly manipulate others . For example, my wife knows that her husband of her “walking “. At the previous stage , she rolled scandals, was jealous because her husband did not meet its expectations and did not want to be only her property . Finally, she realized that , in the end , they are family , live together for the sake of children, and that their education is the meaning of relationship here and now. Alas , my husband is not aware of this . What can we do it ? For the sake of the family , she begins to pretend that everything is normal , she did not notice ” of his long absence or smell strange perfume on his shirt … About these women usually say that they are wise. And this is true.

As soon as the partners move to this stage , the number of scandals dramatically decreases the life of the family to normal.

Although, unfortunately , this appeasement is based on a forced lie.

The fourth stage – the stage of cooperation.

Now the second partner to realize the mission of relations . So , no need for manipulation. There is a possibility of direct and sincere relations , the expression of genuine feelings.

At this stage there is a clear division of roles and have a common goal ( raising children , getting sexual pleasure , help each other – depending on the scope ) . You may have seen those couples , where two people live together , bring up , for example , a child , but both have open sexual relationships on the side . Psychologists say that it is not queer , but people who have reached the highest point in their relationship and being in this happiness. No jealousy at this stage no longer exists, so

there is no sense of ownership. Link partners based on sincerity and understanding , each of them seems to be saying : ” I can live without you , but I’m not comfortable . ”

As history shows , these couples – the strongest , and their relationship – the longest .

The vast majority of couples (90 percent ) in their entire life together does not go beyond the stage of ownership. 7 percent of couples reaching the third stage , and only a fraction of pairs gets to the stage of cooperation .

Why ? Experts assure that we interfere with their own attitudes , beliefs , and beliefs , and simply the absence of basic psychological education . And the offer , looking for a positive Western experience , to apply to family psychology. After all, if we have a headache , we do not tolerate , and take the medicine. So why do not we take the same care to his soul and his love , puzzled psychologists .

Extenuating circumstances

So , the man ( who, as we know , polygamy is inherently ) started a mistress . Let us now take into account the moral and ethical side of the problem, and so we understand that change is not good that the lover equal to rogue states , and the sinner man branded all the terrible words . We abstract from common and hackneyed view of the situation and look at it from another angle . Let’s change some words in some places . Instead, ” started a mistress , for example, put ” met his true love. ”

Aha – you ask . – Then, before he was five or ten or fifteen lived with love artificial ? – Also incorrect . Love, as we know, is rarely chosen by the social and civil status . Errarum humanum est, or, simply,

in the popular , people are sometimes mistaken. This is typical of him . Have you noticed one day that a woman -winding lover , modern society is somehow more tolerant ? Mol , took her Kolka – goat , that’s an outlet and found . ” Dostavanie ” as ” goat – Manko ” for some reason the category of mitigating circumstances are not equal , and Kolka goat remains in any event.

As the war

In general , the situation is . My husband met a great love. This option, in which the wife sooner or later discovers that there are guaranteed a rival. If a simple campaign ” left ” for the health and diversity still has a chance to remain a mystery , something big and bright sense of Straining a man inside , sooner or later will come out outside . And then the fun begins . Few there are women who are in this situation are able to show generosity and to make sweetheart consumption – to divide the property , explain to children that daddy loves them , but will live in another place , to maintain good relations with the former and on holidays, to congratulate each other . The first reaction of any woman would be offended by the immediate desire to declare war.

On the other side – a mistress . Or , more precisely, that the greatest love of his life . And she also loves. Phrases about ” happiness in someone else’s garden ” , ” other people’s bones ” and other questionable places and strange foundations were now stuffed soreness in the teeth . Everything, absolutely everything happens in this life. We do not condone his mistresses , but let’s at least be as fair and objective : the situation is and it needs to do something . There – his wife on the trail of war , here – new-found favorite in the confusion and tumult : How is it so happen? At the center – the hero of the occasion , which , on the good , we ought to give freedom and cuff , and for him to start now instead be taken lightly battles.

Error number one: Hysterics

Wife. Tears , of course , deduce a stress hormone. And the picture of the current from the corners of his eyes tear makes a woman helpless , fragile , and in the soul of a man born of guilt unprecedented power, but let’s be objective: our women are still beautiful to cry do not know how . Or can , but only on the screens. In reality – sobs whistling , tears stream, throat wheezing, red nose , swollen eyes, broken dishes , waved a child and a frying pan – and a husband who understands that better than to run away from here , and as soon as possible .

Mistress . You early hysteria . You knew what they were . If you really want to cry , practice to let the above picture tears . God forbid you from even a hint of hysteria. Hysteric , most likely , he ate at home to the eyeballs . And if they weep and beat the dishes , then cry and , at best , just crying, without damage to property , then where did he go? And suddenly , again, there do not cry at all? Then dry your tears and do not have time , as Amante will be thrown to seek peace and quiet under the wing of a sudden overgrown virtues wife .

Error number two: The feeling of guilt

Wife. Yes , he is guilty . I ‘ll tell you more – he knows it and he live with this his whole life. Moreover , if he – a man of sense , the degree of guilt estimates adequately, and for the “tainted ” three years of life mansion on Rublevke not build will be thrown . Agree on a reasonable moral and financial compensation. For himself , the children. If, however, with an adequate perception of the world had problems pedaling guilt can , of course, be a confining factor, but that’s only normal male your spouse becomes a hunted creature with a sense of acute mental illness on a background of ever-increasing sense of guilt. It will end because he recognized the organization zhidomasonskogo conspiracy, Kennedy assassination , and you until the end of his days will be wearing it to a clinic of neurosis.

Mistress . The degree of his guilt no more than yours. Of course , if the relationship with non-free person you were walking with their eyes open. He was in front of you is unlikely to something so much time to commit offense . And when trying to call it is not a wonderful feeling , can think . By the way, can backfire. The more you try to call it a sense of guilt in front of you for some things not worthy of attention , the stronger it will activate a sense of guilt towards the abandoned family. ” Yeah – will think a man – then blame the wrong size for the diamond , and there in tattered shoes were all the student youth and not make a sound ever . And if the wife – a literate manipulator , then instead of him for something to blame , it starts at an active spare. And you . And it along with you . You have already guessed what was coming next ?

Error number three: Total control

The wife and mistress. Sniffing , obsharivanie , continuous monitoring of telephone, computer , pockets , neighbors , friends … List of women’s mistakes is endless . A person who is deprived of personal space, sooner or later comes to a sensible conclusion to eliminate the cause of violations of personal boundaries . Telephone and mail – all the same things very intimate . A strange scent of men working in an environment of more than one woman can smell an entirely innocent reasons . And what, exactly , do you hope to find there? It is worth remembering that someone is looking for – and you shall find , and think, if you want.

Error number four: the child waved

Wife. The child – not a bargaining chip . And under no circumstances should not become a tool of manipulation. Psychologists around the world in one voice say : a child who became the reason that two people are forced to live together, grow up , gets numerous complexes , and his childhood was far from happy . Better loving set of parents living apart than living in a constantly tense atmosphere

Mistress. No child in the world could not hold a single man – our moms love to repeat this phrase. Memorize . And look for his wife’s advice to see you, they also belong .

For information on how to seduce any man, relying on scientific evidence and experience of generations , wrote in his book English psychologist Andrew Treese . Here are some interesting tips from this creation.

How to make him speak first?

Studies show that the absolute majority of men are opposed to women having an initiative acquaintance . Most of the negative calls the proposal ” to treat him with something ” or an invitation to drink.

So if you want to vending you handsome he started a conversation in your arsenal are only non-verbal ways of communication . For example, open look in the eye and the general quiet smile . Men prefer to start dating yourself , but the object of your attention should be 100 percent sure that you will not refuse him . Here and join the fight for women Tricks: The more you looked at him casually and smile and not take his eyes in a collision of views , the more chances you have to get it. Or rather – about 60% of men unfailingly maintained on such signs .

Moreover , non-verbal signals is much stronger influence on the strong sex , than even the appearance of women. This is the conclusion the researcher Monica Moore , who held a series of experiments in dating . It is estimated Moore, most proposals to continue the evening were not the most attractive ladies, and those who sent soundless signals the most. An average of 35 smiles and attitudes , handed out in an hour , brought on 4 new acquaintances in the same period .

We seem familiar?

According to Andrew Treese , women, members of the inner circle of men who are attracted to an average of 2 times more than casual acquaintances . So look into my friends, colleagues and even neighbors on the bus – maybe someone of them would be a man dreams , and yes even your secret admirer.

If you want to get some macho men from another department at work, but it did not even know his name , again , proceed on a ” let them speak first. ” Try to deal with him as often as possible and do not forget to smile.

Magic beautician

If you do not like to wear makeup , even bothering to use lipstick . Studies show that the brighter the lips of women , the better first impression, it has had on an unknown man. This can partly be explained by the laws of evolution . As each creature instinctively seeks to procreation , men subconsciously choose the partners with the highest reproductive capacity. And the red lips – this is a physiological sign of sexual health of women and their willingness to give birth.

Seize the moment

Another secret of seduction scientists also suggested evolution . Researcher Jeffrey Miller of the University of New Mexico (USA ) found that women are most attractive to men when the most able to conceive . That is the period of ovulation . This conclusion prompted the inquisitive scientist observation … for the strippers, whose tips are directly dependent on their attractiveness.

As Miller discovered , during menstruation ( when the chances of conceiving meager ) income dancers are about $ 35 per hour in the middle of the menstrual cycle , this figure rises to $ 47 , but with the beginning of ovulation time income dancers in the middle reaches 65-70 dollars.

The reason , says Miller, is that men, without knowing it , react to the physiological signs of ovulation ( blush , the increase in the bust, the allocation of specific pheromones in sweat , etc.) and, therefore, regard the women in this period as the most desirable and attractive . In addition , during ovulation in women slightly improved the color and condition of the skin , and is traditionally considered a sign of health and beauty.

In general , the artificial suppression of ovulation, can and will save you from unwanted pregnancy , but it may deprive the chances of any intimate relationships in general . According to the same study Miller, a dancer , ” sitting “on contraception , were consistently the lowest income .

What not to do on a date

One of the biggest English clubs dating conducted a survey among its customers and found that irritates and pushes them on the first date more than anything. Respondents were asked to provide a typical meeting at a restaurant for dinner , and that’s what came of it :

• 46% can not stand when he / she talks during dinner by mobile phone ;
• 41% will not continue relationships with those who Hamit or in conflict with the restaurant staff ;
• 26% of men and 37% of women do not tolerate windbags , constantly talking about his own person;
• 30% confined to a reunion with those who would talk about their ex ;
• 45% of men do not tolerate women speaking on the first interview about his weight , diet or new diet .

I have a surprise for you, gentlemen: Your wife probably doesn’t know how important sex is to you.

Now sure, she knows that it’s important. She knows that you (very likely) want more of it than she does. She knows that you sometimes take an attitude when she is less than forthcoming. She also knows that she can use sex as a weapon, denying what she feels is a physical desire of yours.

But she probably doesn’t know that it is an emotional need.

Most of my marriage articles here on hubpages are for men. Why? Because I run a forum for women about the subject of marriage. I prefer not to cross-post content and Google likes it that way, too. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!

In this case, however, I understand that this topic is so crucial to men that I wanted to give this article the most exposure possible. Guys, women just don’t understand!

Now I know, I know… Women are so mysterious. There are so many things about us that you just don’t “get” that it might be shocking to you that women don’t understand you much better than you understand them! But it is very, very true that each gender sees the world very differently, and if we’re going to be able to truly communicate, we’re going to need to “get on the same page.”

It isn’t Physical, Ladies!
Sure, men like sex. Most men I know love sex, even. It is a physical pleasure that is incomparable, really. But the physical element of sex is a desire, not a need to be met. Men can live their entire lives without the physical pleasure of sex.

What is more important to your husband or significant other is the emotional need that sex meets.

I understand you, ladies! You don’t necessarily think that men are emotional creatures! They don’t (usually) cry like we do, and they don’t talk it out. They don’t discuss their emotions and they don’t bawl into a tub of ice cream like us. But that doesn’t mean that they are not equally emotional creatures.

Like women, men want affection from their mate. Affection is equally important to members of both genders. But your husband or significant other might not be a cuddler. If he doesn’t seem interested in snuggling up on the sofa to watch tearjerker films with you, it is because his need for affection simply isn’t met in the same way that yours is: His need for affection is met through… You guessed it! Sex.
What He Hears when You Say You Have a Headache
“I have a headache” has become a common joke. Women are exhausted at the end of a day of taking care of household chores and children and don’t feel that they can fit sex into their night. They might be angry with something that their significant other did during the day (or week, or month) and feel that denying him sex is appropriate revenge for his insensitivity to their needs. Or they might genuinely have a headache.

But when you tell your husband that you don’t want to have sex… Or if you make up an excuse not to have sex with him, he hears your rejection, and he might become resentful. He hears you say that you don’t want him, that he isn’t good enough, not big enough, not fit enough.

Men are insecure creatures.
It’s not a Weapon, Girls!
Sex is a genuine, emotional need for your husband or significant other. Please, please do not use this gift as a way to manipulate him or to punish him for some perceived flaw. The key is to forgive him and to give him the respect that he needs as a man. Claiming to have a headache or to be too exhausted to meet his needs is humiliating to him and makes him feel like less of a man. It undermines his self-esteem and can make him feel incredibly unappreciated. Appreciation is very important to a man!

Your husband probably feels that sex is invigorating and energizing. After a long day at work, he probably wants to relax with you: and this is his way of relaxing.

I know, I know. The modern woman is asking herself (and me) “what does it do for me?” I get you, and I get your point. We tend to be a very self-motivated society. Let’s address that issue!

What does “Giving in” Get Me, the Woman?
First things first, you shouldn’t be thinking about sex as “giving in” to his desires. When you married your husband, you promised to love him until death. We are meant to sacrifice for our spouse and for our children. Sometimes sex might be a sacrifice. Some nights you might just feel too tired to engage in sexual activity. And it’s okay to say no. Once in a very great while.

But meeting your husband’s emotional need for sex can reap great rewards for you, as well! When you give of yourself to your man, you open a part of him that you might not have seen previously. You help him to feel refreshed and appreciated. You make him feel desired and desirable. You fulfill him in a way that we as women cannot begin to imagine.

Things start to happen. He becomes more apt to ask you how your day has been, or to offer to cook dinner. He becomes more inclined to romance you a bit more (in your way, rather than his, which is unsurprisingly probably sexual). You might stop having to ask four or five times for him to take out the trash (he might do it on the first request now!).

Great things happen when you begin to meet your husband’s needs. Bearing in mind that your husband has an emotional need for sex, this area of your relationship should not be neglected!

1. Pretend that survey public opinion on how best to meet with a man.

2. Wear a T-shirt with his own name on his chest. Guess what your name, do not have to.

3. Say: “Your face seems familiar to me. Where we can meet?” You were not in Bangkok in November? ” (Just do not forget to pre-read a short guide to Bangkok).

4. Standing behind him in line for coffee, start talking about what to choose: mocha, caramel, cappuccino … Then touch him on the shoulder and asked: “What should I order, how do you think?”

5. After a sip of milkshake with whipped cream ask, Are there any cream on your lip. Licking cream a little longer. When he smiles, say that as a child you loved to lick the cream with a celebratory cake before the guests sit down at the table.

6. Ask him the news page of his newspaper’s culture and find out if he had not heard about some interesting new films. If his inspiration for this topic, invited him to the evening session.

7. Stop it matter if he knew where passes premiere – boldly call any play. If a young person is not quite an ignoramus, he burst out laughing, and maybe even invite you to the theater.

8. If he ran out of the office during a lunch break, ask an innocent question, where you can eat. You can go ahead and ask where exactly he and his colleagues go to lunch.

9. Even if he was rushing to work or late for a meeting, you can stop him by asking: “Excuse me, can you tell me how to get to school Hispanic dance at such a street?” Address is better to call somewhere nearby.

10. “Lost” earring. Preferably just where sits “same” man. Carefully examined every centimeter beneath his feet, until he offered his help. Lifted the hair and show him the other earring.

11. If you liked the salesman in a bookstore, ask about some rare book, leave your phone and ask him to call when the book will appear. At any time of day.

12. Take a collection of jokes or humorous stories, and, standing in line, laughing seductively. When you meet his eyes, tell me that you are not crazy – just a book so funny. Come closer to him, to show the most ridiculous places.

13. Dial a pile of books on massage, Thai cooking or rock climbing. Loans to turn into cash, and leave the book under his care while you go to call.

14. Seeing him in the hands of a new intellectual novel, offered to come to the reading of modern prose. To hint that you enter in the number of organizers of the event.

15. After playing a fortune-teller: Honor your destiny with the palm of his girlfriends, and then offered to predict the future and to him. Take him by the hand and gently running her fingers on the palm of your hand, say that it is waiting for a romantic adventure or a meeting that will change his life

Family life seems calm and quiet just newlyweds. They have yet to find out how much misunderstanding lies in family relationships, passions boil in the kitchen or in the bedroom. Many families have not developed a program of “peaceful” solutions. Let’s talk about the most common methods of response conflict and decide which is better: to remain silent, to quarrel or argue?

Silent?

Marina, 27 years old, married for six years. Raise a child. Recently, Marina began to worry that their husband fairly often quarrel, which ends in silence. This silence may last several days. The situation at the time the house becomes tense. Marina makes attempts to begin to talk, discuss it, because of what happened a quarrel, but the husband stubbornly silent. Recently, the silence lasted longer than all. What to do in this situation?

Why dear to one another, rather than discuss the problem, stop, and sometimes a long time? There are several reasons.

1. Become personal

In other words, the spouses do not know how different. Maybe someone of them (or both) in the family mom and dad used this way. And the stereotypes introduced by a native family, the most tenacious.

2. Fear of ruin

Most people, knowing that a quarrel may go too far, just silent. This is a protective reaction to prevent their mouth too.

3. The desire to take offense

Pained silence – a child’s reaction, comes from the preschool period. It was then, unable and afraid to answer to parents, we are offended silent and turned away in the hope that they will understand: we demand the comfort and acceptance of our innocence. The same thing we want to show and teammate.

Offended Silence is distinguished from a wise skill to remain silent. Sometimes it is “step on the throat of his own song” and not say anything that has accumulated in respect of a partner. Of course, if you do not intend that this quarrel will be a spectacular finale to your family life. Wise ability to remain silent does not cause multi-day absence of communication, it helps to get out of the conflict with minimal losses. What can be said about an emphatic silence: “I’m so offended (a) that do not want to talk to you.”

Typically, after a period of silence (a few days, weeks) “by” tolerate. They are no longer able to listen to “ringing” the silence. Therefore, when one offers the world, second in relief agrees. Yet they do not affect that problem, which led to a fight! They are afraid to discuss it, as again may quarrel. A problem that remained unclear and remains in the “piggy bank”, which again sooner or later overflow. So offended conspicuous silence – is not an option, but a dead end.

Quarrel?

Karina and Misha consider themselves very temperamental people. This is manifested in high-profile scandals with each other. The reason for the irritation may be any detail: from dirty cups to the situation on Cuba. Karina and Michael believe that shouting at each other is normal and even useful …! “We are the people! Do not keep it all to yourself! Easier for us to become! “- They say. That only time this behavior has resulted in a family, which already had a child, to predrazvodnoy situation …

Some people are so accustomed to react to any stimulus irritation that simply did not understand how to live differently. This pattern, most likely, also was podsmotren in parent family when both parents (or one of them) reacted indignantly shouting at nedosolenny soup, broken cup, evaluation of the diary. And if such potential “trouble-” in the family, two … What is the quarrel?

1. Become personal

Turning to the individual partners are reminiscent of all the bad things they remember about each other. Negative action (or another view on the situation) can be generalized as a trait of character: “You’re irresponsible,” “You’re a bad father,” “You know nothing.”

2. Who’s who?

Partners want to “put pressure” on each other, to impose their point of view, which is perceived as the only correct one.

3. Self-justification

Although both parties think that they solve the problem, but in reality it is not. Internal goals are realized in the quarrel, – increasing their own self-esteem at the expense of another, self-justification, confirmation of his own bad luck.

April. Protecting the attack

In a quarrel, a spouse is attacked, and the second is protected, and then they switch roles. But defending a man quite capable of understanding the views of another! He is looking for excuses for myself, and usually finds them, continuing to blame the partner and hanging tags.

Both partners feel, ultimately, unsatisfied: the problem not solved, and quarreled. Sometimes only one spouse should be such a stereotype of behavior. Then the quarrel – it’s almost a monologue with the smashing of crockery, flapping doors, charges suitcase (or his partner). People accustomed to this style of “communication” is often said that in another way they can. It seems that “everyone understands, but … can not! But is it really? Someone is really hard to resist, especially when it comes to “explosive” choleric. However, they quickly break out, but just as quickly and cool down. But not always the case only in temperament. Sometimes people allow themselves to such behavior, sincerely believing that it is beneficial: irritation spills, rather than build ip. And in this lies the error.

Yes, anger spilled out. But where? On a partner, a loved one? And now he has within the same energy of excitation, which also requires the exit. Is that what you sought? And now a partner, or splash out on all of you, forming a “vicious circle” argument, or hid in itself, undermining their own health. And one, and other options are equally bad. Sometimes, in order to stop responding aggressively to simply understand that this is actually a bad way. We must believe that it is this “Italian” style of solving problems can destroy your relationship. And if you just aspire to it – continue to say that “want to restrain himself, but may not”, and shouting at a partner.

If your goal – to save the relationship, then try to change. Quarrels with the explanation of relationships – is one of the worst options, which does not lead to solving problems, but only perpetuates them. The quarrel, of course, should not see children. For them, an injury – to see that their family is “not together”, besides they can lead an ineffective coping mechanism.

Gagged?

Cyril and Oksana, wife of “experienced”, they say never “clear up”, but only clarify the problem. The family reigns trust and respect, grow calm children. In addition, they have a golden rule – never to discuss serious issues after 21.00, as well as when it is clear that one of the spouses are tired or sick.

So what’s the difference between constructive controversy and quarrel? So the signs of constructive dispute.

1. Partners have respect for each other and give advice;

2. willing to listen to the views of each other;

3. understand that the purpose of the dispute – to solve the problem;

April. speak only about the problem, not being distracted by the discussion of personal qualities of each other. If the problem affects just manifestations of nature, the partners say no “You – poor” and “You did bad, that does not affect the dignity and gives the field for correction;

5. provided that all rules, both partners feel satisfied, this position “won – won”.

To argue thus is possible even in the presence of children, it teaches them to solve problems in a civilized manner. And, of course, even the constructive debate is not worth starting, if you or your partner feels tired, sick. In this state, we are worse than the control itself and can “break” in the quarrel. Even if you both come home just after 22.00, learn to argue the cultural! This may require more self-control, but it’s worth it.

To learn how to argue constructively, to this study. Like many others, the ability to solve problems this way – it is a social skill, impossible without the training. So – argue, but do not let quarrels!

Non-standard approach

If you understand that the dispute into an argument, you can use several non-standard techniques that help get out of a quarrel with minimal losses. The main thing – it is in the heat of an argument to recall that the possible methods for coping with it.

1. Against third

You might remember as a child your parents quarrel, but when you approach them, they were the unanimous dissatisfaction with you? That is the method of “guilty of the third. You can use this method, but not against children. Try to raise a quarrel about some mutual acquaintances, for which you are both unanimous and negative mood. You will see that your dissatisfaction with each other will be much less!

2. More humor!

Try to laugh a partner, even if you do not to laugh. Someone is trying to express emotions pantomime, someone remembers “the place of” anecdote, but someone does something absurdly unexpected, but funny. If you laughed together, dissatisfaction with each other will decrease.

3. Mail

This method is for those who quarreled seriously. Sometimes that’s hard to say out loud, you can write. Well, if this letter, written in pen on paper. But in extreme cases will approach and an e-mail (although its value is much less). If you decide to write such a letter, consider it. Talk about your feelings, try to accusations partner was as little as possible. Be sure to finish the letter optimistic.

From adversaries to partners

Row – a reciprocal process. Admit your mistakes and ask forgiveness. Unfortunately, many people there is a stereotype that, apologizing, they lose their dignity. In fact, people who know how to apologize and admit his mistakes, cause a feeling of respect, because it suggests that people are thinking and bold. Your apology can help both partners recognize their mistake – because it no longer charged, and therefore do not need to defend.

It is worth noting that a number of peoples (Caucasian, Jewish, Arabs) increased hairiness – a natural state, whereas the “hairless” Asians are much more temperamental sometimes.

By the way, if the hair is thick bushes, and on the chest and back, it is often a sign of adrenal pathology, in which comes early puberty. In these cases, the potency remains high until about 46-45 years and then can quickly deteriorate.

And finally, interesting poll conducted by British magazine “Eve”: 89% of women opposed to their male chest hair removed by waxing. With only 7% of women like very hairy male chest. 54% prefer moderately hairy. Hairy back alienates 62% of women. 68% do not like vegetation on the male buttocks.

And according to another survey of women, about 35% of them do not like the extra hair “, while 3% see them as” a sign of masculinity. ” 37% – priverzhenki golden mean: Let the hair will be, but not very many.

Men are born with the same variety of tools, as well as individuals. All this depends on the nature. A significant number of low men long gun, while at the same number of tall men, it is short. Thin Weak men often have thick strong arms, tall, well-proportioned men have a weak little gun.

Su-Well-Miao-Lun (Taoist treatise on love).

It used to be, and some still believe that if a man has a big nose, it means that he and a big dick. In fact, this is not true. Ongoing studies have not found a direct anatomical dependence of the length, size of the penis from a particular facial features (that not everyone agrees with this statement, just below) and features the figure. Interestingly, the researchers still found a link between the sexual organs and the nose, but … women. At the nasal septum are the so-called “point of Flicka, which menstrual swell and bleed easily. Specialists note that the physiotherapy effects on these points gives a therapeutic effect in certain gynecological diseases.

With regard to sexual activity, the view that all the little bald men with big noses – sexual giants, no more than prejudices. However, scientists still have to prove that we can determine the level of sexual activity on the external data rights. But the nose, growth and bald head has nothing to do with it. Peculiar same index of sexual activity is the ratio of femur length to the length of the entire leg. The longer the hip, so people are sexually active.

Contrary to popular belief, the size of the penis men practically does not depend on its growth and size of other parts of the body. Penis size depends only on individual hereditary factors.

On an interesting method of determining the value of the penis by one of the external signs reported in his article “Elements” porno “in the popular culture in the Russian Karelia KK Username: “Suffice it to indirect relevance to people’s pornokulture Russian Republic of Karelia is a modern way of determining the thickness of the male member, which sometimes push female mockery for the first time got in their men. He was asked to make four rectangular piece of paper (at least from the candy wrapper) to make it corner, where the folds come together, to the tip of his nail on his left thumb, and finally cut the corner over the radius of the nail. The women then take away the paper from the men, reveal it and show all left after the cut corner of the lumen. The diameter of the resulting holes are considered corresponds to the thickness of the nonstimulated male member who was caught in this sexy joke.

And Russian citizens Zaonezhye, according to Loginova, there is another way to determine the male member. It is believed that a member of the larger and longer, wider and longer feet.

Not so long ago an American MD Stephen T. Chang presented the public with his method of determining the size of the penis. He believes that the facial features men can still be an accurate representation of the size and shape of his penis. Dr. Chang, being not only a doctor, but also a specialist in Eastern religions, particularly Taoism, argues that this doctrine allows facial features to install on almost everything. Here are some “keys” to determine the size and shape of the male member.

A man with a long nose and long fingers and a long term.

Men with short nose and short fingers, respectively, are small members.

Men with long noses and short fingers or with long fingers, but with short noses have a member of medium size.

If a man has a big nose, then it has a thick member. In the same case, when the tip of the nose of a man small as a button, it has a thin penis;

The shape of thumb you can determine the shape of the penis. If the thumb has the shape of the fungus, then a member of the male has a similar shape – a narrow stem and wide “cap” (crown). At the same time when the thumb of the male triangular, then the member had exactly the same.

A sure sign of a member of the large size of the male are thick and fleshy lips.